The lies we tell ourselves, I will start tomorrow?
I know what you are doing; I have been there myself a million times. You get gung-ho about starting a new fitness program or you decide you want to start eating healthy. You may even do great for a couple of days until your girlfriend calls and invites you out for dinner and some wine. The diet quickly goes out the window, but you tell yourself its okay because you will do better tomorrow.
Tomorrow arrives but the kids want pancakes and you love pancakes, a couple will be okay besides you will eat well at lunch. But you forgot that it is Lisa’s birthday at the office and they are catering in with pizza and of course there is going to be cake, so the cycle begins.
The Fitness Promise
Maybe, for you, it is beginning a fitness routine and the same scenario above plays out. Your girlfriend invites you to dinner during your normal workout time so you skip it. When you get home, you are way too tired to get it in, besides you are too full from all the extra calories at dinner, you cannot work out on a full stomach, RIGHT!?
How many times have you done this vicious cycle where you make a promise to yourself that this is the time that you are going to get that body that you once had or always wanted ONLY to keep breaking the promises you made to yourself?
Would you keep inviting a friend to dinner if they kept canceling on you every time something “better” came along? I don’t think I would be friends with that person for very long. It would make me feel like a loser if they canceled our plans because something more interesting was going on.
What is a promise?
Just so we are clear, a promise, as defined by Webster Dictionary, is: “a declaration that one will do or refrain from doing something specified.
When we don’t keep a promise to someone, it communicates to that person that we don’t value him or her. We have chosen to put something else ahead of our commitment. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lights-camera-happiness/201005/why-keeping-your-promise-is-good-you
Did you read that part? I put it in bold for you? Breaking a promise, especially a promise to yourself is still a promise; it communicates to that person (you) that you don’t value yourself. We have to start keeping the promises we have set for ourselves to prove that we are worth the time and effort that it takes to be healthy. I have 5 simple steps to help you to NEVER break a self-promise again.
These 5 simple steps are designed to help you start feeling better about yourself so that you start to value your worth. As I already mentioned to you, that you won’t take care of something that you don’t value and this is the first place we need to start.
Step 1: Start drinking water every single day. I want you to take your weight in pounds and divide it in half. The number you get is what I want you to drink in ounces every single day 365 days a year without excuses. For example, if you weigh 150 lbs then you will need to drink 75 ounces a day (that’s just over 9 glasses of water a day). I know you probably think this is silly but it works. When your body is hydrated, you have more energy (remember when you said you didn’t work out because you felt worn out). By giving your body the water it needs and desires it can perform the necessary daily functions it needs to do in order for you to feel good.
Step 2: Go to bed 30 minutes earlier than you do right now. Another reason we don’t feel like doing the things needed to take care of ourselves is that we are walking around sleep deprived. We try to fit a million things in a day (I didn’t say productive things but things). Realize you cannot do all the things in one day. You have 6 other days that you can work things into by making a list by priority in which your workouts should be at the top of the list.
Step 3: Move. Movement is life. Our bodies were never meant to sit for 8-10 hours a day. We sit at our desks, we sit during long commutes, we sit in meetings, we sit at the ball field, we sit and we sit and we sit. You need to get up and move, get in your workout every day. Get up every hour and just walk around and stretch. Not only will your body movement patterns improve, but you will also have better mental focus, you will wake up without the caffeine, your body will be happier, and you will feel better overall and you will experience less tightness.
Have you ever flown on a plane and during the safety demonstration they tell you in case of an emergency put your oxygen mask on first and then your child’s? The reason for that is you cannot possibly help your children or anybody else for that matter if you are incapable of doing so.
If you feel guilty setting aside time for yourself then think of the story of the flight safety demonstration.
Step 4: Feed your body well-balanced meals. Think colorful meals loaded with lots of colorful fruits and vegetables. Our body and our skin need the antioxidants and vitamins they provide. Have your choice of lean protein to help build your muscles, include some healthy fats in order to regulate your hormones, have little complex carbs to provide the energy you need for that scheduled workout. Don’t skip on meals, don’t starve your body, instead of fuel it.
Step 5: Have gratitude. I didn’t do this one for a long time and then I realized I wasn’t living in the moment therefore, I wasn’t seeing all the beauty right in front of me. I am one that is always reaching for the next goal immediately after one is accomplished. When I started keeping a gratitude journal every night of 10 different things I was thankful for during that day, my life really changed. I saw my surroundings and I started to live in the here and now. If you can’t think of 10 things then start with just 5, but I promise you can think of 10. It can be anything from that fresh brew coffee in the morning, to the easy drive into work, or the great conversation you had with a friend.